THE SAFE PLACE

What good shall I do this day? - We can do good by the simplest acts, as our acts of positive influence can change a person who is sometimes struggling, a simple good morning, hello can l help, can change thoughts radically for the better. I have at times struggled internally with mental health trauma and my recovery has been assisted by simple acts of courtesy. Our gifts are many and often they don't need a card a box and pretty paper, all we need is humanity.  

 Be honest with peoples feelings, their heart and their private conversations, some people take advantage of shared feelings and betray what was meant to be private sharing. Do the right thing, would you want anyone to break your trust.

True relationships, friendships are based on integrity, kindness, understanding, resilience, empathy and trust. Choose your words wisely when sharing your thoughts and heartfelt feelings to associates.                                                                                  WHAT GOOD SHALL I DO THIS DAY?  

Scars , laugh lines, injuries and experiences show that we have led a life that has molded our character. We don't always know someones back story, but we know how they treat the people around them, true integrity is what you do when no one is watching.

 I believe that we are all capable of redemption for deeds we are not proud of and acts of inhumanity. To seek forgiveness not only exposes our humanity, but possibly exposes society to the acts that happen behind closed doors, l always say Evil hides in plain sight, only to expose itself when it is safe from judgement. The perpetrators and enablers can seek redemption, whether the victim accepts it is, the bigger question their pain is everlasting, with many questions and l am afraid, much trauma. My thoughts as a Survivor, Storyteller, Advocate Geoffrey Beuzeville.

 Good people are often taken advantage of because their good healing nature, it gives them temporary blindness to the real nature of those who seek absolutism and care little about your good intentions. We care we support and sometimes our good nature is manipulated and bleed dry!

There were times when we had to hide our true selves, walk from out of the shadows of despair and look towards the light, you deserve all the best in life including being the real you.

 Everyone can tell a story, many of us are survivors, the numbers not known but we are ever present, at times we had no choice, no voice , no dignity.  It was wrestled from us our humanity denied and our self worth shattered, we can now thing in retrospect how far we have come and how a victim evolved into a survivor a phoenix, a testament to humanism.

                            What will be your legacy Empathy Kindness Integrity and Goodness.

We the survivors are often through trauma, enabled with insight into others pain and are enabler with empathy,  that transcends language and comforts others. The acts of kindness we gift the world are born in pain and tears My thoughts as a Survivor Storyteller Advocate Geoffrey Beuzeville.

A civil conversation between two respectful parties opens up closed doors in your mind that have been shut to protect your vulnerabilities. Empathy learned is one of our greatest gifts, as it allows a struggling person to comprehend that they are not the only survivor and that someone understands their trauma and journey  

 We often are the only ones who hear our own cries and wipe away our own tears, we discover strengths that we thought were unimaginable.  We are much stronger than those who beat us down, humbled us and denied us our self worth and humanity. My thoughts as a Survivor, Storyteller Advocate Geoffrey Beuzeville.

People come and go in your life whether they be associates, strangers, friends, lovers or good souls Keep the ones that contribute to your peace.                                                         

Sometimes a bigger force is in play allowing our true self to be seen, animals and small children can sense both the good and bad in people and also the empathetic goodness in your soul, without a single word being said.

Trust is such a rare quality, yet it can be lost by insensitive and selfish disregard, trust once given and lost will in most circumstances never be returned.

Being a decent person means acting with kindness, respect, and integrity toward others. It's about consistently making choices that show you care about the well-being of those around you and contribute positively to your community.

Resilience is the capacity to adapt well and recover quickly from difficult or challenging life experiences. It's the ability to "bounce back" from adversity, stress, trauma, tragedy, and other negative events. People will come and go in your life and a few good souls, will enrich and heal your life.

 Every one can tell a story, we all learn hard lessons, wouldn't it be better to support those who are not coping in their current story.

 We are all capable of telling a story, life and challenges have molded us, not always in a good way. Be your own person, allow yourself to walk your chosen path and do what ever you need to find peace and harmony in your body, mind and soul. My thoughts as a survivor Storyteller Advocate Geoffrey Beuzeville.

As a stalwart to survivors, l want to create a conversation about domestic violence, child abuse and the long term effects of such events.

Good manners are not just about formal rules; they're about being mindful of how your actions and words affect the people around you. If you had an accident and needed medical assistance, would you ask the savior for a resume and bank balance.  

I created The ribbon effect to support and enable survivors of horrific trauma and abuse. I am a survivor and l have written three books based on my experiences, the results of living in a dysfunctional family and subjected to Von Munchhausen Syndrome by Proxy and The DARK TETRAD of Psychopathy. I wrote my first book four years ago after a severe accident, this situation enabling me to start my storytelling. I simply wish to create a safe place where those who can tell a story, can feel safe and understood and not judged. Sincerely Geoffrey Beuzeville Survivor Storyteller Advocate

A "trauma survivor" is a person who has experienced a traumatic event and has endured the aftereffects of that experience. The term "survivor" emphasizes resilience and the ability to move through and beyond the trauma, as opposed to being defined by it as a "victim."

 Kindness, empathy and trust are traits we all aspire to and yet silently tell there own story. We wish these kindnesses were bestowed upon us, but many times those who were traumatized learn through their own pain that to heal we will not become tainted by the injustices that we were subject to.

Personal resilience is the ability to adapt and "bounce back" from life's challenges, stress, and adversity. It is not about avoiding problems or pain, but rather about having the mental and emotional strength to cope with difficulties, learn from them, and move forward. Resilient individuals are able to maintain a sense of purpose and a positive outlook, even in the face of setbacks.

The Psychology of Hope Psychologist Charles R. Snyder developed a well-known "hope theory," which breaks down hope into three components: Goals: Having a clear, desired objective. Pathways: The ability to find multiple ways to achieve that goal. When one path is blocked, a hopeful person can find another. Agency: The motivation and belief in one's own ability to use those pathways to reach the goal. This psychological perspective views hope not just as an emotion but as a learned cognitive skill that can be developed and used to foster resilience and well-being. It's a powerful tool for coping with adversity and is correlated with better physical and mental health outcomes.

Types of Empathy Empathy isn't just one thing; psychologists often break it down into different components: Cognitive Empathy : This is the intellectual ability to understand another person's mental state. It's about putting yourself in their shoes to see their point of view, without necessarily feeling their emotions. For example, a skilled negotiator might use cognitive empathy to anticipate what the other party is thinking. Emotional Empathy : Also known as affective empathy, this is the ability to feel what another person is feeling. If a friend is sad, you might feel a pang of sadness too. This type of empathy creates a deep, emotional connection between people.

There are countless ways to do good, both big and small, and the best action to take often depends on your own circumstances, resources, and passions. The key is to find something that resonates with you and brings a positive change to someone's life, even if it's just for a moment. Here are a few ideas, categorized to help you find one that fits your day: Acts of Kindness (Small, but Mighty) Acknowledge Someone: Smile at a stranger, say "thank you" to a barista, or let someone in front of you in traffic. Offer a Genuine Compliment: Tell a colleague their work is impressive, or a friend that you appreciate them. Listen to Someone: Put your phone away and give your full attention to a friend or family member who needs to talk. Write a Thank-You Note: Send a quick text or email to someone who helped you recently.  

  Types of Empathy Researchers and psychologists often break down empathy into a few different types: Cognitive Empathy: This is the ability to understand another person's mental state and perspective. It's about logically comprehending what someone is thinking or feeling, even if you don't feel the emotions yourself. This is a crucial skill for communication and can be useful in professional settings. Emotional Empathy (or Affective Empathy): This is the capacity to feel what another person is feeling. When you see someone who is happy, you feel a sense of joy, and when you see someone in pain, you feel their distress. This type of empathy is often rooted in emotional contagion, where you "catch" another person's emotions. Compassionate Empathy (or Emphatic Concern): This is the highest form of empathy. It combines both cognitive and emotional empathy with the motivation to take action to help the other person. You not only understand and feel their emotio...

"If you've ever felt alone in your struggle, this book is for you." From the depths of a dysfunctional childhood emerges "THE WORST SON A MAN COULD HAVE!" This poignant memoir explores the devastating effects of domestic abuse, C-PTSD, depression, and mental illness, offering a voice to those who have suffered in silence. A story of pain, resilience, and ultimately, a powerful message of hope.

 Trauma induced triggers hark back to situations of terror, pain, adversity and victimization, these memories can be engaged and activated by the weather, a smell, a sound, a date or any number of stimuli.  The effects of trauma such as PTSD or C-PTSD can be debilitating and are constant reminders that we all can tell a story.

 Every person can tell a story, life leads us down many roads and sometimes the journey is never clear or ending. To decide what good you shall do today, reflect on opportunities to ease a burden for someone else, contribute positively to your community, or simply perform small acts of kindness.

 The world always seems to be busy, simply reaching out to ask how someone is going can change someones perspective, be kind be caring. The ribbon effect.

 l have written a number of books and articles on my journey of self discovery but the process is anything but easy or straightforward. Although the want to tell or express my own story was always present, the actual starting point always escaped me. lt wasn't until l was in Intensive Care in hospital that an angelic voice said '' Are you ready for the end '' that being death and with that l had the impudence to start my first written words that would start an avalanche of emotions a cathartic experience that would vest myself of long lost memories and confront me with unrecognized traumas. From my written word experiences l can honestly say they are vesting, cathartic and humbling, it does for want of a better term cleanse your soul but it also makes us question why we were subjected to traumatic situations by people who should have respected and safe guarded us. I have a saying we can all tell a story, that l know is true , when the moment comes your story will be...

My very personal story narrated by Rob Carlton care of No Laughing Matter The words are mine the intensity real and the narration spoken with intensity and empathy. The story is from a chapter of my first book " The Worst Son A Man Could Have" https://www.nolaughingmatter.org.au/podcast-series-two/blog-post-title-one-w5jx9-9gpc7-3sddz-rfmbc-9apjp-y9x4y  

 

 

 An amazing series of interviews with people of addiction and traumas who express there day to day lives and back stories. It is a resounding documentation of the decline in sectors of society and that everyone can tell a story.

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 Some pearls of wisdom from Rowan Atkinson, that shows we all deal with singularity of what we inter-prate as other peoples opinions of us. Did we expect Mr Bean to have such depth and insight! 

  After a severe injury and questioning my own vulnerabilities , a kind voice whispered to me in Intensive Care are you ready for the end, that being death. From those confused and pain racked images l was able to find solace and begin my written word therapy that has produced three books. These books are not Shakespearean masterpieces or Mills and Boone they are simply raw truthful and vulnerable descriptions of my childhood, my life dealing with horrific cruelty, S.A. and callous indifference. My books are available on my website www.theribboneffect.com.au and are downloadable on Amazon  Thank you for your interest, kind regards Geoffrey Beuzevilel Survivor Storyteller Advocate 

  An exploration into the after effects of horrific childhood traumas from the unique perspective of a man having lived with the aftermath and reflecting back on the effects of a dysfunctional family upbringing